Updated: Apr 13
When I was young I always thought FEAR was the opposite of LOVE.
Maybe that is because as a young child we do not really experience the feeling of 'hate or anger', although we do learn fear over time. Today I realised it is not . . .
‘FEAR IS NOT THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE. FEAR IS THE OPPOSITE OF FAITH!’
When one has FAITH - then FEAR can no longer exist!
To believe that all is well, even when our own perspective doesn’t realise this - is a key to unlocking the beautiful gift of faith. For Faith reminds us that we are always one with love! Even when we feel that we are being separated from it for a moment in time. Indeed, it is having the Faith to believe in this at all times, that is one of our greatest tests and a test that will bring a sense of purpose to whatever point that we find ourselves in at our most vulnerable in life.
Yes - GOD IS LOVE.
But not necessarily a God that has a male face, or holds a book of worship, or sits in one chapel or church instead of another.
I personally took those words literally - even as a child - that GOD is actually LOVE itself...the purest form of love:
LOVE as ENERGY Having Faith in the one - Faith in GOD (or whatever you prefer to 'name' it that divine higher power) - is having faith in LOVE itself...
Have Faith and Fear dissolves.
I remember this realisation dawning on me six years ago and thought it relevant for me to share it today. As I look back over those 6 years I recognise what a journey I have been on since then! Over that time, as I have been guided on my own journey to self-healing and self-discovery, I have been shown moments of great faith in my life and moments that I felt completely disconnected from God, Source, All-that-is, or whatever name you prefer to give that greater power. How powerful the sense of being connected, or disconnected is! It turns out to be one of the greatest and most powerful motivators for how we see ourselves and the World within which we live. Feeling connected - a part of something bigger than ourselves - is an essential ingredient to our health and well-being. The sense of being isolated, disconnected and separate is a powerful, and fearful state, albeit that it is, of course, an illusion.
Love is the primary emotion through which we are connected to the World around us. As children we love unconditionally, those we are connected to: our birth or foster parents, our friends and family. Our safety and security are defined by the World we inhabit, and strong bonds with our parents, family and social group are all part of the sense of safety and security and self-identity that we build about what and who we are.
Love is how we go on to connect with important people, places and events throughout the rest of our lives.
Love is the strong bond that we activate through our own energy system that keeps us 'connected' to those people, places and events that define us, that keep us feeling safe, and in touch with who and what we see ourselves as.
Without those strong bonds of love, we become disconnected, we become adrift - and 'lost'.
Not just because we are disconnected to the important people in our lives, but because we have lost the connection with our own hearts, our own emotional connection to everything around us.
It is this emotional, heart-based energy of love that tells us what we are passionate about, what is important to us, and without it, we are disconnected from our own passion and ability to connect with the heart of who we really are!
And so, without love, the World can seem to be a fearful place. A lonely place. A place of struggle and isolation. Where a person can feel completely alone, no matter how many people surrounds them, or how busy or 'full' their life may appear.
From here, 'Faith' is a place to begin to rebuild ones own connection with who they truly are.
Not 'Religion', but faith, trust, belief.
Seeing the greater picture. Recognising that there is a never ending connection between all things, all people, all places.
It is an exercise of faith to CHOOSE to begin to see the elements that join us together, that connect us to each other; rather than remaining in a reality that mainly sees the gulf of separation between us.
The choice to stay disconnected, or to choose to reconnect with the World around us is one that we can only make from the inside.
I feel it is important here to recognise that there are many ways that a person can feel 'disconnected', and that it is not necessarily easy for an outsider to see how another person is experiencing life:
It is completely possible to feel isolated and alone even if you have a big family around you, if you live in a 'strong' community and appear to have a huge network of loving and supportive people around you.
Because it is not what is on the outside that defines your experience - BUT WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING WITHIN that defines your experience of 'connection' or 'disconnection' to the World around you.
It is also possible that you can be married, have children and appear to everyone else to have a happy family environment. Yet you may still feel isolated, disconnected at a deep level from those around you. Not because you don't love them, but because on some deep level it is unsafe for you to be completely connected, or invested through the energy of love (not the emotion), in the World around you.
Past traumatic events can also cause disconnection to the World within which we find ourselves living: physical and sexual abuse, neglect and childhood abuse, bullying and many other traumatic or stressful events can cause this kind of disconnection, and ultimately steal away our ability to connect 'heart-fully' with others, in a way which keeps us fearful and closes down our hearts ability to make the heart connections which are the life blood of a completely full and connected life.
These type of 'disconnections' are driven by beliefs such as: "the World is an unsafe place"; "people cannot be trusted"; "I am not truly safe here", or even "I am an outsider", and therefore "people do not understand me".
All of these thoughts and beliefs can exist in someone who is otherwise living a 'normal' life to any observer.
The Body-Mind-Emotion link
I was taught much of this lesson through my own thyroid condition, Hashimoto's, which is an auto-immune condition which completely destroys the thyroid gland and therefore completely affects the body's ability to create important metabolic hormones, leaving sufferers completely unable to function properly on many levels - physical sluggishness, difficulty in staying awake, mental fog, potentially adrenal and heart problems, infertility, miscarriages, other auto-immunity issues, the list goes on and on.
The body is constantly directed and orchestrated to function in a way that will best serve our overall purpose, and is also designed to primarily withstand and overcome threats of danger. It will do this in the best way that seems possible, given the danger that it is perceiving. It will also put 'survival' at the top of the list of 'jobs to do', so any situation that the mind or emotions perceive as even slightly 'life-threatening' will over-ride other biological tasks.
If this threat of danger is present every day, even if it is a reasonably 'low level' threat, it will initiate an ongoing biological response to try to keep us 'safe' for that period of time.
The miracle of disease That our body is so perfectly created that it is able to decipher danger or decode sights, sounds, smells and feelings that initiate an instant emotional, psychological and biological response to that stimulus is frankly amazing! It means that our bodies are constantly operating on an intelligence that is orchestrating every function within the body - and is doing so without our conscious involvement in the process: There is the first Miracle!
That we are given opportunity after opportunity to re-experience those things which cause us to experience pain through our fear is also a second Miracle. The miracle that the Universe has set up for us to be able to experience the outcome of our perception again and again, in order for us to decide if this is indeed the experience that we wish to have as our life. (Here I know is where I am in danger of losing those who cannot believe that pain or fear would be a part of the great plan for our highest ascension and good). So please bear with me...
Every moment of painful disconnection and fear is a moment that we are given the opportunity to choose how we will react in that moment - to accept love and grace into our lives, or to embrace the fear and look at what it is trying to show us: what it is trying to teach us, to illuminate our awareness and bring to our consciousness. There is the choice - in every moment - to choose love and grace through surrender, which is the fruit of faith; or the pain we experience through fear - through the battle against our situ