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After Identifying those Emotional Triggers - What then?

Updated: Jun 22, 2022

Most of us would say that we recognise what emotion is - we would say that we know it because we can 'feel' it.

Happiness, sadness, joy and grief are all bound into the fabric of our lives from childhood and beyond - yes even back into the womb!

Our Emotional Links occur within the womb

Spiritual or religious ideas have long held that we are more than the sum of the newly creating cells of life found in an embryo, that we are a divine expression of a greater spirit that is more expansive than the physical 'parts' that are being formed within the womb.

The work of Bruce Lipton and other areas of Spirit Science research suggests this is also true. We will look at how, on an individual level, and also on a collective level, we are all living within a complex set of energy patterns that we are unconscious of.

Some more scientific ideas have suggested that the new cells forming within an embryo should not 'feel' anything in the womb, that they/we were just an unconscious mass of cells and tissues in the process of making and becoming the completed form of who we are now.

This idea that we do not exist as a consciously 'feeling' being may be true to some extent, and I do not pretend to know the answer to the question of if or when our consciousness emerges within the physical body - but does this idea become less true when we consider that 'unconsciousness' is not a measure of 'life' itself!? Or that we experience ourselves firstly, as a higher group of thoughts and energy/mind patterns before they are processed and we experience them as emotional or physical 'feelings' which we do through the ongoing development of the emotional and then the physical body. In addition, there is increasing evidence that more and more people are tracing their current life purpose back to its origin within the womb.

We all recognise that we still 'exist' even when we are momentarily within the sphere of unconsciousness which happens for many parts of our life: during sleep and even wakeful states of semi-consciousness; as babies and children as we grow and develop we usually move through a range of brain-waves that move our mind slowly from the less conscious state of babies found within Delta waves (at less than 4hz) activity, into the everyday fully conscious waking state of most adults operating in Beta waves (13-30hz). It is precisely within the brain frequency of unconscious thought that our early minds, in Delta waves are absorbing and making brain synapse connections that will inform and later direct our conscious thinking. These include the synapse connections that babies experience through all of their senses - smell, sound, colour etc.

We acquire all of this information as little packets of 'data' during every moment when as a baby, both before and after birth, we are learning what it is to be within our 'safe' environment.

'Safe' is a perception of each individual - what is thought safe by some, is not thought safe by others, however, the overriding criteria for us all in deciding what is 'safe', is the connection we have with what is familiar.

Safe is the repetitive sound of a mothers heartbeat, or a fathers voice. Safety is a perception held up by the fact that we have indeed 'survived' and are still alive. This is why children or abused individuals that are considered to be in 'unsafe' relationships or environments by external people, will still chose to remain with their abusers or attackers - because ultimately they are feeling 'more safe' with what and who they know, than if they left the safety of the known.

During the period within the womb, babies will begin to experience emotional states; for example when the pregnant mother hears the sound of another persons voice whom she loves, it will set off a release of 'happy hormones' within the mothers body; an abusive partner however, or a traumatic experience will equally create fear hormones, such as cortisol, and this would create a fear response to be felt within the growing baby in utero.

Although it is difficult for us to know if there is a set 'time' that the spirit or consciousness of an individual enters the growing physical body in the womb (that is if we assume it is not 'always there' from the start), research into energistics, epigenetics and the 'molecules of spirit' continue and we can see that the biology of emotion is a key component to moulding our emotions and our life experiences - these experiences continue to confirm and re-affirming our own thoughts and beliefs, by continually showing us that our past experiences are 'true' (through our own assessment of our own 'truth'), we continue to set up and perpetuate the patterns that grow with familiarity due to repetition. These repeating patterns, whether we experience them as good or bad, continue to affect our future. Knowing we are strong enough to overcome our obstacles is a pattern that becomes evident in the life of a person who believes that. Always being 'walked over' is evidenced again and again in the life of someone who believes this to be true. Never falling in love with the right person, not being clever enough to work things out, never being recognised for the effort being made - all of these are self-perpetuating truths that we tell ourself unconsciously in most cases, which were potentially set right from our first unconscious experiences within the womb.

These thoughts and belief cycles may continue for as long as they continue to be part of our daily life experiences - they are 'true' to our unconscious mind, and therefore they remain within our unconscious patterns and continuing to search out all those experiences in our life which continue to prove that 'truth'. Over time, and reinforced via many repeated experiences, we have created a pattern which itself operates as a strong 'wave pattern' - in affect, we have created an 'energy pattern', or an energy field within which we are comfortably held, due to familiarity. Some of those fields may be influencing our lives in very happy and positive ways - someone who is always expecting positive outcomes is rarely disappointed, because that is what they are attuned to 'see'. This particular habit (of expecting positive outcomes) or energy field is not one that would necessarily want to be changed. However, some of our energy fields are holding us in painful or destructive patterns, and can seem very hard to break out of, even if we do not like the outcomes of some of those energy fields!

Whilst many of these patterns are created either in utero and during the first 6 years of our life, the work of becoming aware of the patterns that are causing us pain and suffering is the work of a life-time. It is the work of the soul.

These patterns of belief, of the energy we create around our own life can seem impossible to break free from. They cause us pain, but like the child of the abusive parent, we are more comfortable within them, than the idea of changing them. However, sometime those patterns of experience will take us to a place that we know is no longer viable for us to stay in. We can feel the grip of their destructive influence over our lives and we are forced into some of the deepest and darkest places that our soul life, our inner life will ever take us. These are personal and profound journeys - and whilst they may seem unbearably painful, they are also offering us a key. A key to discover what it is that has been holding us captive for so long - without us even being aware of it.

There is increasing evidence that more and more people are tracing their current life purpose back to its origin within the womb. For it seems that we are experiencing a state of being where we are plugged into the 'matrix' and able to experience and be 'aware' of things, people, places and events from well before our actual birth occurs. It appears, that whilst our conscious mind is not able to appropriate or make any cognitive sense of that time, our energy body, our physical body and our unconscious mind might all be able to access those formative moments.

Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) & the Matrix

The previously hazy links between the unconscious mind and the 'matrix' are being uncovered by increasingly more people who are working within EFT, Matrix reimprinting and other energy techniques. They are experiencing the profound effects that working in this new area of energy psychology can have upon them.

Indeed there are multiple people, who have used EFT, Matrix or other energy techniques, that are personally verifying and confirming to us, that changing small moments of our unconscious 'data', and altering the connections between the thoughts and patterns that were originally created and held in these unconscious reservoirs of our mind during either small or large moments of trauma can have a profound effect on matter: our biology and our health - emotional, physical and mental.

The recognition that we are all connected to our past in ways which are moulding and influencing our current life situation is not at all strange to most of us; we understand that we have been created in the image of our parents, our families, our communities and our spiritual, social or ethnic blueprints. But now, more than ever before upon the Planet, we are pushing the boundaries of what it means to traverse the boundaries of our past experiences and identities. We are exploring new freedoms from old traditions in so many ways, as we choose to extend our old perceptions of what is 'ok' for us to accept. As the World gets smaller, our ability to choose how we wish to express ourself and 'create' our experience of life is ever growing.

As part of this development there are more people than ever who are beginning to travel the frontiers and boundaries of 'self' than ever before. We no longer live in a society that says that our Spiritual experiences have to remain under the singular majority religion of the locality - we are multi faith communities, and as such, that has allowed individuals to begin to look towards the secret interior life that makes up our Spiritual awareness in a much more open way than ever before.

Similarly, EFT and Matrix Reimprinting allow us to begin to look at our emotions in a completely new way: no longer do they need to remain the 'odd' and uncontrolled part of ourself that brings us into a quivering heap of mindless confusion. Whilst it is their important work to bring us to look inwards and traverse the darker secret aspects of our interior life, sometimes by simply stopping us in our tracks, or bringing us to our knees if necessary, our emotions are more and more recognised as being profound 'way-showers' for us to look at and understand what is really going on within our deepest mind, that complex and previously unknown aspect of ourself - our unconscious!

Learning EFT and other energy psychology techniques is not overly difficult - anyone can do it! That is what makes them so special! They are a profoundly life-changing game player for all of us!

These techniques can be used at any time, and in any place and allow us the opportunity to bring a new found, consciously empowered moment into what might otherwise be experienced as overpowering, over-emotional moments of fear, pain, anxiety, frustration, anger, disappointment and many other emotional states that can seemingly catch us off guard, and cause all sorts of little (or large) difficulties in our lives.

Don't get me wrong - these are not techniques to 'stop emotions from happening' in your life - they are techniques to bring us into the moment, to allow us to become fully present and aware of what is going on, but to do so in a gently empowered way that gives us the time and the space we need to bring the physical body back into a more balanced state and then to uncover the secret links and connections that may be unconsciously triggering us and keeping us in highly emotional responses that are not helping us or our lives.

When we learn these techniques and begin to apply them in our lives, we not only stop becoming like a victim of our own seemingly irrational emotional behaviour, but potentially we become able to experience more of our reality than we were previously aware of. Our past experiences and our present experiences begin to make sense to us in a way that they just didn't beforehand! More importantly, once we understand what is going on for us on such a deep level, we can really begin to make some REAL CHOICES around how we want to respond to those triggers, old beliefs, old patterns and ideas...once we see that we are in a pattern, and we understand that pattern and why we are living in it, we can decide to stay there, or get the hell out!!

EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Heart focused Energy Healing and Conscious Health Practices are opening up an awareness that we are all able to change our thoughts and our beliefs and our emotions when they are no longer serving us well, or are even creating pain and suffering in our life!

We are coming to understand that our experience of life is built upon our own thoughts and perceptions - and with this realisation comes the even greater awareness that we no longer need to remain in 'bondage' to those old ideas and experiences, especially when they are painful or cause us suffering in some way!

Science and Spirituality are dancing around the same profound truth - that we are all spiritual and we are all physical -

Spiritual in its true sense of the word, not bound to Religious thought or principle, but the Esoteric nature of spirituality - that essence of 'knowing' which we all hold within us, the connection of our mind and body and spirit to a 'gut' reaction, that connection we experience when we encounter our 'intuition' and our higher senses; that recognition of the supreme power and elegance of the creative force of nature, that leaves us silently in awe at the perfection of a sunrise, or a sunset, of dew held on the finest spiders web in the early morning; the moments of inspiration that explode without any conscious thought and reshape our lives.

All of these pay tiny homage to our unbound nature - of our highest spiritual connections, that we all experience within our everyday lives!

We can choose to explain these experiences any way we choose - as mystical, emotional experiences, or through the observation of a series of physical or biological expressions that can be written down in scientific formulas. It does not matter how we choose to log the 'data' or information around that experience - because it is at once both spiritual and biological, emotionally experienced and scientifically verifiable as a series of hormones and chemical compounds. Of course it is! Because that is the point - we are here, on Earth, in physical form, having a profound experience which is OUR LIFE!

But who are we now? Do we think, feel, act and look the same as we did yesterday, or are we constantly remaking ourselves in the form of the experiences that remain constant, or that are open to the flow of constant change?

In light of the awareness that our cells are constantly being recreated, we know that in reality, we are not the same bunch of cells that made up our body only 24 hours ago, 48 hours ago, a week or a month ago.

We also recognise that over a period of time, we have been subjected to different experiences and ways of thinking that can profoundly affect the way we think and feel about ourselves and others. In fact, it is one of the ways that we recognise that we have had a response to a thought, or an idea, a person or a place - it is ow we 'feel' that indicates to us whether this is an idea, thought or experience that we will consciously perpetuate and re-create in our life, for example by choosing to "be" with a person we love, or to seek redress for a wrong we feel has deeply wounded us...may of our actions are informed by the inner web of emotions that we experience from day to day, moment to moment - whether they are small moments of emotion that confirm to us that we are acting in accord with our inner life (our beliefs thoughts and feeling), or in some cases the emotions are large and significant, as they make new experiences that form new thoughts, ideas or experience that will go on to mould our future life experiences - for good or bad...

When we engage in the work of conscious self-healing, we are choosing to traverse into the darkest parts of ourselves - the most fearful and isolated parts of ourselves that have been calling out in pain, frozen in terror, or shrunk back into the corners of the darkest recesses of our mind. All in an effort to remain safe, to

I suspect you are noticing some changes - and becoming more aware of the patterns and how they manifest in daily life.

Once we start to see them, we cannot ignore them any longer, and things definitely begin to change!

With all of our new awarenesses comes a choice about how to respond - should we respond just how we always have, or once we have identified the old trigger pattern do we choose to make new choices, act differently, to face the trigger pattern, release the stress response that it has created in our body, and go into a heart focused response?

In many cases recognising the stress triggers, becoming aware of them and then having to choose how to respond is the more difficult aspect of our new growth - that is where the real act of change begins to occur.

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